In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding. Today I’ve received a question from a bride who has the dilemma of whether or not to invite both of her divorced parents to her wedding.
I am getting married soon and I am unsure whether to invite my dad to my wedding. My parents are divorced and do not get on at all. I know when I speak to my mum about whether I should invite him or not she will tell me to do what I think is best, but I know deep down she does not want him there.
If I invite him I know my mum will probably end up arguing with me over it nearer the wedding date and accuse me of having no loyalty towards her. I can see that she will probably end up telling me she will not attend if my dad is going to be there. I know it would be wrong of her to put me in this position but this is exactly what I can see happening. I don’t want to upset my mum but I don’t want to exclude my dad from the most important day of my life either. I am not sure what to do for the best.
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