Wedding Planner Q&A – Money as a Wedding Present
Friday, December 4th, 2009
Posted in Wedding Planner Q&A
In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding, and today I’m offering advice on asking for money as a wedding present.
We already have everything we need for our house so we’re not having a gift list. Instead we’d prefer to have money that we can put towards our honeymoon or a DIY project. How do we tell our guests this without sounding rude or greedy?
It’s increasingly common for couples to ask for vouchers or money these days, and it isn’t considered rude or offensive as it may have been several years ago. Most people would rather give you some money to put towards something useful than give you a gift that never sees the light of day. I would suggest putting a short explanation in with your invitation as a separate insert, with words to the effect of:
“As we already have everything we need for our house we do not have a gift list. Your attendance at our wedding is a gift in itself, but if you feel you would like to mark the occasion we are currently saving towards redecorating our living room, and a contribution towards this would be very much appreciated.”
Some people feel that providing such details with their invitation is presumptuous, but in my experience guests would much rather have this information upfront than have to contact you to find out what you would like.
If you have a question you’d like to share, drop me an e-mail at helen@helencarterweddings.co.uk with “Wedding Planner Q&A” as the title and I’ll be sure to feature it here on the blog.
