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Wednesday, January 27th, 2010
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In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding. Today I’m offering advice on how to go about choosing your bridesmaids.
I have six close friends that I’ve known since school. They’ve always been there for me and we’ve shared lots of special times together. I would love for them to be my bridesmaids, but I also have two sisters who I want to be involved in the day. I know I can’t have eight bridesmaids, so who should I choose?
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Tuesday, January 12th, 2010
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In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding. Today I’ve received a question from a bride who has the dilemma of whether or not to invite both of her divorced parents to her wedding.
I am getting married soon and I am unsure whether to invite my dad to my wedding. My parents are divorced and do not get on at all. I know when I speak to my mum about whether I should invite him or not she will tell me to do what I think is best, but I know deep down she does not want him there.
If I invite him I know my mum will probably end up arguing with me over it nearer the wedding date and accuse me of having no loyalty towards her. I can see that she will probably end up telling me she will not attend if my dad is going to be there. I know it would be wrong of her to put me in this position but this is exactly what I can see happening. I don’t want to upset my mum but I don’t want to exclude my dad from the most important day of my life either. I am not sure what to do for the best.
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Thursday, December 10th, 2009
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In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding. Today I’m offering advice on what to do when your bridesmaid announces that she’s pregnant part way through your planning.
I’ve chosen my bridesmaids and bought their dresses, but my chief bridesmaid has now told me that she’s expecting a baby and will be 7 ½ months pregnant by the time of the wedding. She knew she was pregnant when I asked her to be a bridesmaid and didn’t say anything, but she’s still expecting to fulfil her role. I’m really pleased for her but I’m quite upset that she didn’t tell me from the outset. I don’t want a heavily pregnant bridesmaid in my photographs, but how can I tell her without upsetting her or losing her friendship?
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Friday, December 4th, 2009
Posted in Wedding Planner Q&A
In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding, and today I’m offering advice on asking for money as a wedding present.
We already have everything we need for our house so we’re not having a gift list. Instead we’d prefer to have money that we can put towards our honeymoon or a DIY project. How do we tell our guests this without sounding rude or greedy?
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Thursday, November 26th, 2009
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In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding, and today I’m offering advice on how to invite work colleagues without their partners.
We really want to invite our work colleagues to our evening reception, but we can’t afford for their partners to attend as well. We don’t really socialise with the partners outside of work, so we don’t really know them that well. Is it rude to only invite our colleagues and not their other halves?
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Wednesday, November 18th, 2009
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In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding. Today I’m offering advice on paying for bridesmaids’ outfits.
Do we have to buy the outfits for our bridesmaids? We’re on quite a tight budget and paying for their dresses means we can’t have some of the other things we would like on the day.
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Friday, November 6th, 2009
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In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding. Today I’m offering advice on how to deal with distant relatives who expect to be invited to your big day.
I have lots of aunts, uncles and cousins but we don’t really keep in touch and I haven’t seen them for several years. However, since they heard I was getting married they’ve called to say how much they’re looking forward to the wedding. I don’t really want them there as I feel I barely know them – how can I tell them they’re not invited without causing a family rift?
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Wednesday, October 28th, 2009
Posted in Planning Advice, Wedding Planner Q&A
In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding, and today we’re looking at how to deal with divorced parents at the wedding.
My parents got divorced some time ago and now both have new partners. They don’t get along at all and I’m worried that they’ll start arguing at the wedding. Do you have any advice as to how we can make sure they don’t ruin our day?
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Thursday, October 22nd, 2009
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In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with common anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding. Today I’m offering advice on how to tell your guests that children aren’t invited to the wedding.
Lots of our friends and relatives have young children, but we don’t want lots of children running around at our wedding. How can we tell them children aren’t invited without causing offence?
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Thursday, October 15th, 2009
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In our weekly Wedding Planner Q&A we look at how to deal with the anxieties, questions and problems that often crop up when you’re planning a wedding, and today I’m offering advice on how to deal with an unhelpful bridesmaid.
I asked my friend to be a bridesmaid when I first got engaged, but she isn’t helping me with any of the planning or providing any of the support I need. She doesn’t seem to have any interest in the wedding and I feel she’s making my life more difficult and stressful. I don’t really want her to be a bridesmaid any more, but how can I tell her without losing her friendship?
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Thursday, October 8th, 2009
Posted in Planning Advice, Wedding Planner Q&A
Part of my role as a wedding planner is to provide impartial advice on anything relating to a wedding. This is a very emotional time, and it can be easy for worries and concerns to get blown out of proportion and cause huge amounts of distress.
I see these sorts of problems all the time when helping couples plan their wedding, so today I’m launching a new Wedding Planner Q&A series where I’ll offer advice on how to deal with common situations and problems. If you have a question you’d like to share, drop me a line at helen@helencarterweddings.co.uk with “Wedding Planner Q&A” as the title, and I’ll be sure to feature it here on the blog. Today we’re dealing with wedding finances…
Our parents are helping us to pay for our wedding, but we’re worried that they might start to take over with the decision making. How can we have them help and still have the wedding we want?
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